a ‘hot mess’ is just a mess

Have you been watching my #PROtip videos on social media? A few weeks ago, I created a Vlog series called “Life Hacks with Holly: PRO tips for making life easier.” Each week, I post a short video with a life hack I’ve applied in my own life and feel is worth sharing. Things like “Don’t cook bacon naked” and “Stop saying YES to shiz you hate.” Ok, I’m sort of kidding.

Actually, the Vlog topics focus on creating room in your life for energy to flow, aligning your actions to the vision you have for your life, outsourcing tasks that deplete your joy… quick, fun tips on creating a life you LOVE.

Join me on social @TotallyEnough – next pro tip will be on following people who pour into your life and unfollowing people who suck you dry.

Here is what is on my mind right now as I prepare for my week: 

Why do we create a task list for all the things we need to DO before we’ve spent time envisioning who we want to BE?

There is pressure to DO all the things, all the time. We have more to do than we have time to do it. We’ve glorified the idea of being a ‘hot mess’ as if being organized, deliberate, and intentional is so yesterday. Friends, it isn’t! It’s soooo important that we understand what giving ourselves permission to be disorganized and unintentional is doing to our lives.

If you do not know what your goal is, how can you be intentional?

If you are always reacting, how can you be building?

If you have no plan, how can you be strategic?

By allowing ourselves to become a hot mess, we’ve reduced our ability to be effective. Frankly, friends, being a mess isn’t hot. It’s just messy. If we settle for that descriptor, we have willingly limited our reach. We have reduced our impact. When we laugh with fake humility, and label ourselves this way, we are proclaiming to the world that we do not, in fact, bring anything of value. We are not a force to be reckoned with; we are mess to be avoided. Think about it.

Do you want to learn from the person who doesn’t have their life together?

Do you look up to women who are late, disheveled, and distracted? I don’t.

I’m drawn to leaders who are intentional. I’m following people who have MADE IT. Women who have deliberately crafted a life of which they can be proud. Women who affect change in this world don’t achieve influence by accident.

Before you write your ‘to do’ list this week, I encourage you to spend some time thinking about the vision you have for your life. What is your career goal? What is your vision for your family? What kind of lifestyle do you want to have? Once you’re clear on that, you’re ready to map out your action plan for the week. Every task you set before yourself should be filtered through or measured against the vision you have for your life.

You didn’t dream of growing up to be a ‘mess.’ You didn’t do all of those things to accidentally land in a pile of confusion and happenstance. No, ma’am. You’re a world changer. You’re a powerhouse. You’re a goal getter. You’re a success story.

Look at your plan for the week. Examine each task. If it doesn’t align, don’t do it. Period.

You have precious few moments in the day. Don’t just be busy… be BUILDING. A ‘hot mess’ is really just a mess.