Women, pay attention.
From the minute we arrive on the planet, we are learning. Memorizing. Recording. Absorbing. It’s what we are designed to do. Every single message comes in and is processed. Stored. Placed. Our brains find a spot to file away the information for future use. There is no filter for ‘good info’ or ‘bad info’ – all of it is subconsciously stored.
And guess what has been the constant, unfailing narrative???
“You are NOT ENOUGH.”
“You need this product.”
“Your friend does it better.”
“That person outperforms you.
Your life would improve if only you did XYZ.”
It all boils down to this: keep women in a state of insecurity so we buy more, we do more, we need more. Perpetuate a scarcity mindset so we are never satisfied, and we teach our children the same. Generation after generation, we hand down the scarcity mindset.
The comparison rituals.
The competitive drive that wins no trophies and only widens and deepens the cavern within.
My favorite is the new spin on the old game… the empowered version of comparison. You see, we started to catch on. We woke up a little. We decided we didn’t want to be pitted against each other… so the narrative changed.
It became acceptable to stop openly competing with others. Now we feel evolved when we say we aren’t in competition with anyone else- we just want to be better than the person we were yesterday.
There it is!
The subtle shift, but still the scarcity.
Do you see it? Do you feel it?
You are not enough.
You are STILL not enough.
You must strive to be better than you were yesterday. You don’t have to compete with ‘her’ but you must compete. You must compare. You must change, improve, push harder, press forward. You’re not permitted to accept yourself as is.
Because you are NOT ENOUGH.
You need to be more and buy more and do more.
To rest is to be complacent.
To accept yourself is to ‘give up’.
To be still is to settle.
What a scam!!!!!
Read this (and read it every day until it sinks in and replaces the narrative you’ve stored within your psyche for years and years…)
You were enough yesterday and you’re enough today…
You do not need to compete with her or them or yourself.
You do not need a product to make you perfect.
And if we don’t believe that, they’ve won. We are fully trained. We are captives. How does that sound?
Yuck. It makes me mad.
What if we tried a little experiment? Let’s ask our brains to alert us when we receive a message that reinforces the scarcity mindset. Let’s set an internal alarm to go off when we start to compare or feel inadequate.
Let’s do this every day for a week… Watch what happens.
<Alarm bells are gonna RIIIIIINNNG!>
Our brains will give us the info we request. The alerts will come – we just have to listen.
And then we need to remind ourselves of this:
We have enough.
We do enough.
We are enough.
Through her vulnerability and a generous dose of honesty and humor, Holly Chamberlain encourages and empowers others to find joy in every moment… even the impossible ones.
Holly is Regional Sales Director for a global pharmaceutical company and Founder of The aMasongrace Project, a suicide prevention organization. She is an advocate, speaker, and blogger. Her widely-read blog, “It’s Just Me” chronicled her journey of surviving suicide loss. Her latest endeavor, “Totally Enough,” is focused on empowering women of all ages to recognize their unique value, to walk in abundance, and to rest in the knowledge that they are already enough. As is.
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